a classified ad from a New York paper, Dec. 21, 1861

A young lady, country bred, but easily tamed and civilized, would like to correspond with a city gentleman, with a view to matrimony. It is necessary for him to be wealthy, and not less than forty years of age, as she would “rather be an old man’s darling than a young man’s slave.” The advertiser is 21, and presumes her manner and appearance will recommend her to tastes not over fastidious; also, a lady of position, and will expect replies from responsible parties only; therefore, triflers, take heed.
— Address Matilda, Station D Post Office.